3 Ways Your Mouth Can Absolutely Ruin Your Relationship (Part I)

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My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” John 1:19 (NIV).

Do you have a big mouth? Are you constantly upsetting your significant other with your impulsive words? Or does the pettiness flow freely from your lips? If so this post is for you my dear. Below you’ll find my personal testimony about the mouth, and 3 ways it can absolutely ruin your relationship. This is part one of two-part series on our mouths, so be sure to subscribe! You’ll be the first to know when part two is published!

I Know I’m Not the Only One

My husband, Drew, and I attend a newlywed’s small group at our church every other Saturday. At the last session, this question went around the table, “What roadblocks can you identify that could steer your marriage off track?” After a few people spoke up about what they battle with I got up the courage to share something I struggle with daily: my mouth. As I went into detail on how I could be less impulsive, more sensitive, and slower to speak, I was met with nods and laughs from my fellow wives. So I know this isn’t just a personal problem. Especially in an age where speaking your mind and being outspoken is praised.

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Advice from a Newlywed: 4 Mistakes I Made in My Singleness

 

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It’s not too long ago that I was putting my hands up to Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”. But now that I’m married, I’ve reflected on that time in my life and I’ve come to realize a few things. I’d like to share some new found wisdom with all the single gals. But before I dive into the 4 mistakes I made in my singleness, let me share a little of myself with you all.

Single girl, luke-warm life

My singleness remains a vivid memory to me still. For the majority of high school and college I was the quintessential single girl. I focused just enough on school to get good grades, but definitely enjoyed going out with friends, dating, and overall just “being in the mix”. During this time in my life I was living a “luke-warm” existence. While I knew of God, and claimed Jesus as my savior I was living in sin and focusing solely on pleasing my flesh.

After I left school and moved back home with my parents, it was then that God started to move in my life. I wish I could say upon moving home, I got my act together and got saved. However, that wasn’t the case. While I knew God was tugging at my spirit to come to Him, I was still too focused on what most worldly twenty-something females are focused on. Outward beauty, finding “the one”, having a good time, social media, and my budding career.

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Marriage Problems Or God Problems? 5 Ways to Surrender Your Marriage to God.

A Reality Check

“Most of the problems we experience in marriage stem from a lack of relationship with God, which means they are not really marriage problems. They’re God problems.” — Francis Chan and Lisa Chan, You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity Devotional from YouVersion. Interested in You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity, click here.

This quote from my daily devotional hit me like a ton of bricks! If I’m being completely honest here…I haven’t been focusing on the Lord. Between being a newlywed, full-time Medical Laboratory Scientist (MLS), new blogger, friend, daughter, and my many other roles I can definitely say that God’s been getting my leftovers. And unfortunately, I’ve seen the fruitlessness of living a life not truly focused on God.  It’s so easy for all of us to fall into cycles of overemphasizing other seemingly important areas of our lives. However, our God deserves to be put first over everything, and rightfully so.

For great is the Lord. He is to be given much praise. And He is to be honored with fear more than all gods” 1 Chronicles 16:25 (NLV).

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5 Books Every Couple Should Read Before Marriage

5 books Every Couple Should Read Before Marriage

 

Are you seriously dating or recently engaged? Do you have questions regarding marriage and where God fits into the big equation? Or perhaps you think you and your significant other have it all figured out. No matter where you are in your relationship with God or your partner I truly believe there is much to be learned before you say “I do”. With that being said, I’ve compiled a list of 5 books every couple should read before marriage!

Reading is one of the things my husband,  Drew, and I love to do, separately and together. We believe reading is a great way to learn crucial concepts, revisit forgotten ideas, and ultimately grow. God designed us to grow in many ways, particularly in spirit and mind, not simply to mature in age. “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me” 1 Corinthians 13:11, New International Version (NIV).

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Welcome to A New Wive’s Tale

The Wedding Is Over, Now What
Hello and Welcome…

My name is Jazmen Johnson and I’d like to welcome you to my blog, A New Wive’s Tale!

The most frequently asked question I got after my wedding weekend was “Do you feel any different?” Initially, my response was no, but as the days have turned into weeks, and the weeks have turned into a couple of months I can definitely say I’ve changed my mind.

In all actuality, everything in my life has changed in one way or another now that I’m married. My daily routines, my expectations, and most importantly my heart, slowly but surely. One thing neither my husband nor I were prepared for was the cold hard truth; people are inherently selfish, imperfect, unsympathetic sinners. I say this not to give you the impression that my spouse and I are evil. I say this so you can see how we came to the realization that being married to someone else is extremely hard, even when you’re a Christian.

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