How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations: Finances (Part V)

Marital Expectations: Finances

We’re on the last leg of our five-part series: How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations. This week we’re discussing our final topic, finances. Take a look back at the last five weeks and check out parts I-IV here.

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How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations: Friendship (Part IV)

Marriage Expectations Friendship

We’re almost at the end of our five-part series: How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations. The past three weeks we’ve looked at expectations on love, family, and household responsibilities. Today we’re talking about friendship, because “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend” Proverbs 27:17

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How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Household Responsibilities (Part III)

How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Household Responsibilities

Familial expectations was the hot topic last week. As we continue our five-part series: How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations, we’ll be discussing household responsibilities, how exciting! Not sure if you sensed the sarcasm there, but I’m one of those people that hates doing chores. Nevertheless, it’s a natural part of everyday life. Establishing expectations on tasks within your home is crucial in the beginning. Hopefully sitting down and talking it out will save you all a lot of arguments in the future.

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How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Family (Part II)

How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Family

Last week I talked about creating marital expectations on love. This week we’ll be exploring how to establish the most important marital expectations about family. You and your (future) spouse may come from similar backgrounds. Or your families may be as different as night and day. Either way, your relationship with your families will affect your relationship with each other…whether you like it or not. So why not clear the air from the beginning and talk it out?

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How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Love (Part I)

How to Establish Marriage Expectations: Love

 

Last week’s blog post prefaced this five-part series: How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations. To start off, I’ll dive into my favorite expectation topic, that crazy little thing called love.

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How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations

Over the Thanksgiving holiday, Andrew and I had some time to reflect on our first four (almost five) months of marriage. Months one and two were a struggle, but towards month three we found our new “Johnson rhythm”. One of the main things, after God’s love, that set us up for success was establishing the most important marital expectations.

Marital Expectations

They say one of the biggest reasons for problems in relationships are unmet expectations. So before we married, Drew and I sat down and outlined our expectation of each other and our marriage. The major topics we discussed were: love, family, friends, finances, and household responsibilities. Each topic had smaller sub-topics we discussed in depth.  Our conclusions are recorded in a document, and they can be changed at any times as long as we communicate with one another. Taking the time to acknowledge each other’s expectations is so important, especially in the beginning. I believe that making the effort to communicate in the early stages saved us from many misunderstandings and gave us some guidance to fall back on.

Over the next five weeks, I’ll be diving into the five marital expectation topics in depth: love, family, household responsibilitiesfriendship, and finances. I hope you and your (future) spouse take the time to truly listen to one another on these issues. There is truth, love, grace, and growth to be found in this exercise. I think it is a great way to begin a new marriage or develop an established union.

With lots of love,

Jazmen Johnson

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7 Easy Ways To Achieve Victory Over Your Mouth (Part II)

Last week I shared 3 Ways Your Mouth Can Absolutely Ruin Your Relationship. This week we’ll wrap up the “Your Mouth” series with Part II, 7 Easy Ways To Achieve Victory Over Your Mouth. I’m sharing tips and strategies I’ve learned from the Lord’s word, personal experience, and relationship books about guarding your lips. However, guarding your lips should be plan B when it comes to lip treatment in your marriage. So what should we be doing first and foremost?

Nurture the Relationship That Comes First

I’ll be married for four months in about two weeks, how crazy is that!? Well, it may not be crazy to you, but it’s a little surreal for me.  I wish I could say that these first few months of marriage have been completely blissful, but if I’m being 100% honest…they haven’t been. Not to say we haven’t had wonderful times, but we’re definitely still growing as a couple and getting to know one another. Hence the fact that I’m able to share the 7 strategies below with you all. I wish I had been more patient, kind, and selfless in these elementary stages. But I can’t go back now. However, I can share things I wish I had done since hindsight is 20/20.

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3 Ways Your Mouth Can Absolutely Ruin Your Relationship (Part I)

3 Ways To Ruin Your Marriage with Your Mouth - pinterest image

 

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” John 1:19 (NIV).

Do you have a big mouth? Are you constantly upsetting your significant other with your impulsive words? Or does the pettiness flow freely from your lips? If so this post is for you my dear. Below you’ll find my personal testimony about the mouth, and 3 ways it can absolutely ruin your relationship. This is part one of two-part series on our mouths, so be sure to subscribe! You’ll be the first to know when part two is published!

I Know I’m Not the Only One

My husband, Drew, and I attend a newlywed’s small group at our church every other Saturday. At the last session, this question went around the table, “What roadblocks can you identify that could steer your marriage off track?” After a few people spoke up about what they battle with I got up the courage to share something I struggle with daily: my mouth. As I went into detail on how I could be less impulsive, more sensitive, and slower to speak, I was met with nods and laughs from my fellow wives. So I know this isn’t just a personal problem. Especially in an age where speaking your mind and being outspoken is praised.

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Marriage Problems Or God Problems? 5 Ways to Surrender Your Marriage to God.

A Reality Check

“Most of the problems we experience in marriage stem from a lack of relationship with God, which means they are not really marriage problems. They’re God problems.” — Francis Chan and Lisa Chan, You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity Devotional from YouVersion. Interested in You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity, click here.

This quote from my daily devotional hit me like a ton of bricks! If I’m being completely honest here…I haven’t been focusing on the Lord. Between being a newlywed, full-time Medical Laboratory Scientist (MLS), new blogger, friend, daughter, and my many other roles I can definitely say that God’s been getting my leftovers. And unfortunately, I’ve seen the fruitlessness of living a life not truly focused on God.  It’s so easy for all of us to fall into cycles of overemphasizing other seemingly important areas of our lives. However, our God deserves to be put first over everything, and rightfully so.

For great is the Lord. He is to be given much praise. And He is to be honored with fear more than all gods” 1 Chronicles 16:25 (NLV).

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5 Books Every Couple Should Read Before Marriage

5 books Every Couple Should Read Before Marriage

 

Are you seriously dating or recently engaged? Do you have questions regarding marriage and where God fits into the big equation? Or perhaps you think you and your significant other have it all figured out. No matter where you are in your relationship with God or your partner I truly believe there is much to be learned before you say “I do”. With that being said, I’ve compiled a list of 5 books every couple should read before marriage!

Reading is one of the things my husband,  Drew, and I love to do, separately and together. We believe reading is a great way to learn crucial concepts, revisit forgotten ideas, and ultimately grow. God designed us to grow in many ways, particularly in spirit and mind, not simply to mature in age. “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me” 1 Corinthians 13:11, New International Version (NIV).

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