How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations: Finances (Part V)

Marital Expectations: Finances

We’re on the last leg of our five-part series: How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations. This week we’re discussing our final topic, finances. Take a look back at the last five weeks and check out parts I-IV here.

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How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations: Friendship (Part IV)

Marriage Expectations Friendship

We’re almost at the end of our five-part series: How to Establish the Most Important Marriage Expectations. The past three weeks we’ve looked at expectations on love, family, and household responsibilities. Today we’re talking about friendship, because “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend” Proverbs 27:17

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How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Household Responsibilities (Part III)

How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Household Responsibilities

Familial expectations was the hot topic last week. As we continue our five-part series: How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations, we’ll be discussing household responsibilities, how exciting! Not sure if you sensed the sarcasm there, but I’m one of those people that hates doing chores. Nevertheless, it’s a natural part of everyday life. Establishing expectations on tasks within your home is crucial in the beginning. Hopefully sitting down and talking it out will save you all a lot of arguments in the future.

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How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Family (Part II)

How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations: Family

Last week I talked about creating marital expectations on love. This week we’ll be exploring how to establish the most important marital expectations about family. You and your (future) spouse may come from similar backgrounds. Or your families may be as different as night and day. Either way, your relationship with your families will affect your relationship with each other…whether you like it or not. So why not clear the air from the beginning and talk it out?

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How to Establish the Most Important Marital Expectations

Over the Thanksgiving holiday, Andrew and I had some time to reflect on our first four (almost five) months of marriage. Months one and two were a struggle, but towards month three we found our new “Johnson rhythm”. One of the main things, after God’s love, that set us up for success was establishing the most important marital expectations.

Marital Expectations

They say one of the biggest reasons for problems in relationships are unmet expectations. So before we married, Drew and I sat down and outlined our expectation of each other and our marriage. The major topics we discussed were: love, family, friends, finances, and household responsibilities. Each topic had smaller sub-topics we discussed in depth.  Our conclusions are recorded in a document, and they can be changed at any times as long as we communicate with one another. Taking the time to acknowledge each other’s expectations is so important, especially in the beginning. I believe that making the effort to communicate in the early stages saved us from many misunderstandings and gave us some guidance to fall back on.

Over the next five weeks, I’ll be diving into the five marital expectation topics in depth: love, family, household responsibilitiesfriendship, and finances. I hope you and your (future) spouse take the time to truly listen to one another on these issues. There is truth, love, grace, and growth to be found in this exercise. I think it is a great way to begin a new marriage or develop an established union.

With lots of love,

Jazmen Johnson

14 Uplifting Scriptures for a Joyous Day

Start your day off right

The first few moments of your day can easily set the tone for what’s to come. As women we have so much to deal with; some of it rewarding, and some of it stressful (to say the least). At times we need reminders to be the salt of the earth and the light of the world, Matthew 5:13-16. So at the beginning of your day, it can be tremendously helpful to read God’s word and speak truth and love over your life.

With that in mind, I have put together a list of 14 encouraging scriptures I find helpful when I start my day. However, these verses can easily be prayed or recited throughout your day to remind yourself of whose you are. You are a daughter of the almighty God. He loves you beyond measure, and nothing will ever change that. The Lord has placed you here for a unique purpose, be encouraged in Him.

14 uplifting scriptures for a joyous day

14 Uplifting Scriptures for a Joyous Day
Be strong in the Lord, do not fear

For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT)

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7 Easy Ways To Achieve Victory Over Your Mouth (Part II)

Last week I shared 3 Ways Your Mouth Can Absolutely Ruin Your Relationship. This week we’ll wrap up the “Your Mouth” series with Part II, 7 Easy Ways To Achieve Victory Over Your Mouth. I’m sharing tips and strategies I’ve learned from the Lord’s word, personal experience, and relationship books about guarding your lips. However, guarding your lips should be plan B when it comes to lip treatment in your marriage. So what should we be doing first and foremost?

Nurture the Relationship That Comes First

I’ll be married for four months in about two weeks, how crazy is that!? Well, it may not be crazy to you, but it’s a little surreal for me.  I wish I could say that these first few months of marriage have been completely blissful, but if I’m being 100% honest…they haven’t been. Not to say we haven’t had wonderful times, but we’re definitely still growing as a couple and getting to know one another. Hence the fact that I’m able to share the 7 strategies below with you all. I wish I had been more patient, kind, and selfless in these elementary stages. But I can’t go back now. However, I can share things I wish I had done since hindsight is 20/20.

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3 Ways Your Mouth Can Absolutely Ruin Your Relationship (Part I)

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My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” John 1:19 (NIV).

Do you have a big mouth? Are you constantly upsetting your significant other with your impulsive words? Or does the pettiness flow freely from your lips? If so this post is for you my dear. Below you’ll find my personal testimony about the mouth, and 3 ways it can absolutely ruin your relationship. This is part one of two-part series on our mouths, so be sure to subscribe! You’ll be the first to know when part two is published!

I Know I’m Not the Only One

My husband, Drew, and I attend a newlywed’s small group at our church every other Saturday. At the last session, this question went around the table, “What roadblocks can you identify that could steer your marriage off track?” After a few people spoke up about what they battle with I got up the courage to share something I struggle with daily: my mouth. As I went into detail on how I could be less impulsive, more sensitive, and slower to speak, I was met with nods and laughs from my fellow wives. So I know this isn’t just a personal problem. Especially in an age where speaking your mind and being outspoken is praised.

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Advice from a Newlywed: 4 Mistakes I Made in My Singleness

 

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It’s not too long ago that I was putting my hands up to Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”. But now that I’m married, I’ve reflected on that time in my life and I’ve come to realize a few things. I’d like to share some new found wisdom with all the single gals. But before I dive into the 4 mistakes I made in my singleness, let me share a little of myself with you all.

Single girl, luke-warm life

My singleness remains a vivid memory to me still. For the majority of high school and college I was the quintessential single girl. I focused just enough on school to get good grades, but definitely enjoyed going out with friends, dating, and overall just “being in the mix”. During this time in my life I was living a “luke-warm” existence. While I knew of God, and claimed Jesus as my savior I was living in sin and focusing solely on pleasing my flesh.

After I left school and moved back home with my parents, it was then that God started to move in my life. I wish I could say upon moving home, I got my act together and got saved. However, that wasn’t the case. While I knew God was tugging at my spirit to come to Him, I was still too focused on what most worldly twenty-something females are focused on. Outward beauty, finding “the one”, having a good time, social media, and my budding career.

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